Part 1- Understanding What Love Is!
If you can’t take me at my worst…
then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best!
-Marilyn Monroe
We all have good and bad days, and for sure, we want to be loved on both!
We all recognize that we have a wide range of emotions. Some we're proud of… some not so much, but unconditional love is still what we hunger for.
Yet how do we give unconditional love─
without feeling compromised, without feeling a sense of personal loss?
➤ Understand that there are only two emotions… love, and the absence of love, which is fear.
Fear has many forms: anger, insult, resentment, jealousy, unkindness, bitterness, harsh reprimanding tones, impatient words, nasty looks, dismissive remarks.
➤ Know that love does not attack these fear-filled emotions. That would cause more resistance... and even more trouble! (Just hang in there with me...)
Love does not attack anger, insult, resentment, jealousy, unkindness, bitterness, harsh reprimanding tones, impatient words, nasty looks, dismissive remarks.
The presence of love simply causes these feelings to disappear, just as light makes darkness impossible. The power of love brings fear to its knees.
Norman Vincent Peale recalls a poignant example of this. "I was stopped at a red light in a taxi in New York City. A man jumped into the taxi and held a knife to my throat. I said to the man, 'I love you.' The man dropped the knife melted into tears."
➤ Recognize that the attraction of love to love is irresistible.
Love entices more love, like a flame draws in the moth. Love wants to unite all things with itself.
➤ Realize, if you make your partner the enemy,
then an enemy will respond- and a battle will be your result… a battle no one can win.
But how can you be the presence of love in your relationship… in the middle of a heated upset?
- How can you speak in support of yourself, not making your partner the enemy?
- How can you protect your dignity, self-respect, and authenticity?
- How can you inspire rather than require good behavior?
Find these answers in Part 2, “Quick Fix to Prevent an Angry Argument”.
This next post offers an easy (palatable and effective) way to give love when love is needed most… AND maintain your dignity!
It shows you a simple way to transform trouble, and bring miracles into your relationship. Don't miss the powerful conclusion of Part 2.