Don’t Allow Divorce to
Rattle You at the Roots

Don’t Allow Divorce to Rattle You at the Roots

You can never make peace in the outer world
unless you make peace with yourself.

-The Dalai Lama

Love is the source of good that exists in all things.

And yet sometimes you just can’t seem to access that love. 

You can’t feel it, can’t give it, and you just can’t try anymore. Divorce becomes the obvious next step. Getting a divorce ranks right up there with the top life changes that rattle you at the roots.

Creating a vision for your future helps you find peace─

It can remove the fear that so often accompanies stepping into the unknown.

You now know! You know in your heart, see it across the screen of your mind, feel it in your soul─ that you are going to be OK. You envision it!

The only thing worse than being blind,
is having sight without vision.

-Helen Keller

When you know what your new life looks like, you can see divorce as part of the path to get there.

When divorce is no longer a blame-game ─ peace becomes possible again.

Clarity of vision calms you at the core─ Vision reduces resistance to make agreements because you know where you want go, and what you need to get there.

But looking at your life─ is like a fish trying to look at the water it’s swimming in, encircled by, immersed in.

It’s hard to detach, to step back and see things from an objective viewpoint.

The difference between transformation by accident and transformation by a system, is like the difference between lightning and a lamp. Both give illumination, but one is dangerous and unreliable, while the other is safe, directed, available.

-Marilyn Ferguson

So, here is a simple 3-Step "Reliable System" you can use to get you started. It will help you:

  • Reach down deep and identify what matters most.
  • Objectively understand yourself and the life you were meant to live.

    • This is how you use it:

    1. Find a quiet spot where you can relax the body and still the mind.
    1. Ask yourself, “What makes my heart sing? What would I want─ to do, to be, to give… if there were no limits?”

    2. Ask yourself, “Why do I want these things? What need do they fill?”

    Now you have a list of what you REALLY NEED to live a life you love!

    Let me explain:

    • Maybe you would travel to Africa if there were no limits… Why? Because that would satisfy a need for adventure.

    • Maybe you would write the next great novel or paint the next masterpiece. Why? Because that would satisfy a need to be creative.

    • Maybe you would build huge wealth which would allow you to support an important cause or charity? Why? Because that would satisfy a need to make a difference in the world, to help others.

    As you explore your own inner landscape, you arrive at a place that feels exciting, energizing, enlivening.

    Your deepest longings bubble to the surface… like the need to be adventurous, to be creative, to be fulfilled.

    Armed with these new intentions, you can more accurately discern forks in the road… more precisely choose the direction your life will take.

    Maybe you’ll go to Africa, or paint a masterpiece or build a billion-dollar business… Maybe not. But most likely, moving towards adventure, creativity and helping others will now be non-negotiable, as you start living life on your own terms.


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